It’s so easy to get caught in the sticky web of deceit, gossip, fantasy, revenge, and temptations that Facebook entangles us with. We have at our fingertips the ability to reach out to hundreds of so called “friends” and create havoc in an instant. Although Facebook is a great tool to keep in touch with old friends, new friends, coworkers, and family members, it is also a doorway to much pain and consternation.
One problem I have with Facebook as a social media tool, is how people use it as a weapon. How someone can publicly humiliate and bash on someone they barely know and reveal it to hundreds of people instantaneously. This brings rise to a new sociological term called cyber-bullying. Social media is actually changing our society and creating new dilemmas that probably wouldn’t have existed without such a platform as Facebook . It is so easy for kids to spread rumors or embarrassing photos of others to 500 people in a click of the mouse. There was a case recently where a teenage girl committed suicide by walking out in front of a bus to end her life, because she couldn’t take the torment of this cyber bullying on Facebook. Even after her death, kids still continued to post on her Facebook page riddled with insults and words of vitriol.
Another dilemma is the ease, availability , and temptation to cheat on your spouse. It is becoming increasingly popular to look up your old high school sweetheart and rekindle that old flame. Where this was not so easily done years ago and would take research and time to find someone, with Facebook you can look up someone in a instant. It also gives an easy format for 2 people that barely know each other to create an avenue in which to get intimate without leaving the comforts of leaving their home. This was not possible 15-20 years ago, and Facebook has brought this to an increasingly easy level. I have friends who, on a daily basis, gets hit on and is given indecent proposals. They’re all married. Therefore, when people are in marriages going through a rough time, this makes it very enticing to jump ship, rather than work out their problems. To the point where, my one friend says everyone she knows, is cheating on their spouses due to people they meet on Facebook.
A third danger associated with Facebook is “too much information” (TMI) or the gossip quandary. How many times has someone said mean things about their parents, bash their friends, spill secrets, say bad things about an ex, talk poorly of their children, ridicule something their spouse said, etc.? Why do we feel compelled to tell our quasi friends intimate details of our life that we would otherwise not tell our family members or our close “real” friends? A recent example of this is someone, “a friend of a friend” died recently, and they felt it necessary to post it on Facebook. When the parents of the person who died went on Facebook to check out there newsfeed they first learned of their child’s death. Can you imagine finding out our son or daughter died by a post on Facebook? This enrages me and should enrage you. People are so craving attention, and they need to be liked and fill the unhappiness in their real lives so they feel the need to be the first person to post this. I am reminded of Proverbs 13: 3 “Whoever guards his mouth preserves life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin”
It is easy to say that Facebook is the root of all this evil, or that “Facebook made me do it” when it comes to cheating on our spouses. But what is really the heart behind the matter? The problem is us, our motives, desires, needs, and pride. The problem is that our hearts are basically evil by nature. Many of us don’t want to believe this about ourselves but that’s just your heart deceiving you It says in Jeremiah 17:9, “The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately sick; who can understand it?” You see it is not Facebook that is evil, it just gives us a platform for our hatred, pride, covetousness, gossip, and anger to be displayed. We need to be mindful of the things we post. This reminds me of Proverbs 14 where it says, “One who is wise is cautious and turns away from evil, but a fool is reckless and careless.” Let us not be the fool when it comes to our Facebook posting but let us be cautious in what we put up for the world to see. We should ask ourselves are we causing anyone harm, Are we gossiping, are we acting and speaking inappropriately with someone who is not our spouse? Are we speaking ill of our children, spouse, or parents? This is what we should ask ourselves before we hit “post”.