I was watching a show with my kids the other day, and there was a part of the story where this girl was chasing after some boy she previously broke up with. Things however were not turning out the way she was hoping it would. This dilemma caused the girl much sadness and angst, and was thinking about ways to get the boy back .This is when her good friend stepped in and said, “I don’t think you are the main character in the story anymore”. This got me thinking about how we all think we are the main part of some story.
We might have different stories that we want to be the main character in, but if we are honest with ourselves we will discover this to be true. For me I have a desire to be liked, and even more than that is the desire to be needed. I find that I have a propensity to do things to get positive reactions from as many people as I can. I am not always conscious that I am doing this, but when I step back I can see how my actions are based on the approval of others. Why do I do this? Usually because I want people to talk about me and make the story about me. Again this is not in the forefront of my mind, but when I check my motives I realize I will do things with the hopes of getting people to like me. More than this is the my desire to feel needed. Who doesn’t want to be the hero in someone’s life. I find I gravitate to people who are going through a difficult time and I want to comfort them. Now that being said I do genuinely want to help people and comfort them. I do however need to check my motives and make sure I am not just trying to be someone’s savior. Last time I checked that job is already taken.
These are some of my ways that I try to be the main character of the story, but what are yours? I was once told an analogy about this as being a bottomless cup. We all want to fill the cup with something that makes us feel complete or the main character of the story. For me as mentioned is the feeling of being liked or needed. For you maybe it is success, or position that makes you the main character of the story. Or maybe it is looks, you want to be the head turner when you walk into the room. Whatever it is we all have something that wants us to be noticed, liked, needed, or the feeling of having power. Unfortunately the cup being bottomless will never be filled with the satisfaction you are filling it with. The desires we are trying to fulfill will never be quenched. Unless that is if you change your cup.
The day after hearing this cup analogy, I came across this passage. The LORD is my chosen portion and my cup; you hold my lot…Therefore my heart is glad, and my whole being rejoices; my flesh also dwells secure. Ps. 16:5,9 What we need to do is break that bottomless cup of ego, of self-centeredness and replace it with the Lord. Not only is he the cup, but he is also the substance that fills it. This concludes with us finally being satisfied and our whole being will rejoice. Instead of self-focused, self-centered living that never satisfies, allow the Lord to be the main character in the story.